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HOLDING ON TO LOVE

Written by crizlai on Jan 21st, 2008 | Filed under: life, love, relationship

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have known many people who are still holding on to love when the relationship between what was a good one ended abruptly. How sad it is to love someone you really cared for and yet you could not maintain the relationship? The saddest thing about life is that when you met someone and fell in love only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be. You have wasted years and years of your life waiting and hoping to gain back what was lost but is it worth it? Is it going to become a reality? Is it worth it to hold on and wait for another five years, ten years or even more?

What is stopping you from moving on? Is the love that strong until you would put on hold your future for the sake of waiting and hoping that the day would come when you can salvage back what was taken away from you? Love is like a clear lake which was stained by the blood from a broken heart. If scooping and throwing away a glass of the lake water is equivalent to an hour, how long do you think you can make the water clear again? How confident are you that you have the power and energy to do that? How sure are you that the water would be cleared of the blood pollution? No matter how hard you tried, you will never clear the hurt and bad memories of what had happened. This is the nature of the heart to feel but forever fear and the mind to remember but never forget.

You can depict love like a butterfly. The more you chase after it, the more it will fly away from you. If you just let it has its freedom to fly and to choose, it may come to you one day when you least expect it. Theoretically this is true but what are the chances of someone having the full freedom coming back to the tiger’s den? It is almost as good as none. As the sayings go, “once bitten, twice shy”. How can you mend a heart that has been broken before? How can you mend a relationship that has become stale? If the love is strong enough, no matter how far apart two persons are; it will never end in any way. What is yours is yours as love cannot be forced.

Love is like on a performance stage. You will never know whether it is true or false unless you experience it yourself. It can make you happy but often it hurts. So take your time and choose the best. It may soar or fall apart but do not be disheartened. Cherish the moment well with that someone who is really worth it. After all, to love in a relationship is to grow in life. Remember this well: “Do not be too dependent or possessive in love. Pure love does not cause you pain.”

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LIFE IS A TEST

Written by crizlai on Jan 15th, 2008 | Filed under: life, rant, test

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life is a series of test. In our life, we faced many difficulties. These difficulties are tests. In fact, our whole life is a school. From the time we first open our eyes until the time we close our eyes, we will not stop studying and gaining knowledge in our school. This may sound ridiculous but this is the facts of life.

In out school, we tend to face many failures, one after another. Did we ever give up? No, we did not. We kept on pulling ourselves upwards to pull through the ordeal of falling down. Do you not think that this is a test to see if we have reach the stage of maturity, the strengthening of courage, the trust in ourselves and in our life? No matter how we fair in the test, we will eventually know the results as we look back to them as experiences.

Do you think that it is good to be tested on and off? Through each test that we have gone through, we will know that life is just a subject; a subject that we grow and learn the true meaning of life. For each problem that we encounter, we will learn more on the solutions that we can apply in the future.

Gaining the knowledge alone will not help you pass through your tests if you do not know how to apply that knowledge tactfully. You will need to cultivate the habit of constant revision to update your knowledge of any new topics. Using the resources that you have gained, and applying them in your studies will eventually made you understand more on any typical situations. You will become more sensitive and analytically equipped to any topics thrown to you.

Do I sound confusing to you? Well, this is life. Life is meant to be confusing and complicated until you have reached the maturity to understand it. In short, life is how we want ourselves to be. If we fall down and decided not to pull ourselves back into the right track, we will never succeed in whatever endeavors. We will never stop learning. We will never stop absorbing good experiences that can help us grow. In fact, without the experiences that we have encountered throughout our life, we will not know how to be sensitive towards others’ feelings. Neither will we be able to share the love and appreciate someone you cared for full heartedly.

Have you reach that stage in life? I would admit that I have yet to reach the stage because I have not and will not stop learning how to be a better person until the day I leave this world. What I have learned throughout this life education is just a peanut hidden within its shell, wanting to break out to see the world out there. Until the day that I have not found the rich soil that would enable me to grow, I would still be facing the many threats of being roasted, broiled or even fried in my life cycle.

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WE CANNOT PLEASE EVERYONE

Written by crizlai on Jan 10th, 2008 | Filed under: life, rant

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

You might have heard of Aesop’s fables on “The Man, The Boy and The Donkey”. The story goes like this. A Man and his Son were once going with their Donkey to market. As they were walking along by its side a countryman passed them and said: “You fools! What is a Donkey for but to ride on?” So the Man put the Boy on the Donkey and they went on their way. But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said, “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.” So the Man ordered his Boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other: “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”

Well, the Man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his Boy up before him on the Donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passers-by began to jeer and point at them. The Man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at. The men said, “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey with you and your hulking son?”

The Man and Boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, till at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them till they came to Market Bridge, when the Donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the Boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the Donkey fell over the bridge, and his fore-feet being tied together he was drowned. “That will teach you,” said an old man who had followed them. “Please all, and you will please none.”

How true it is that we cannot please everyone. We have to realize that everyone takes different paths and paces to reach the same goal. Therefore, we should not stop others from practicing their way to achieve a task which differs from ours. We are living in a society that is ever changing. There are many views and opinions from all walks of life and we have to respect and deal with them professionally.

Sometimes, the opinion of others might be right but we have to study in-depth whether it is beneficial to our self improvement. If it is not, then discards the opinion and does what you think is right. It is just impossible to please everyone just because they have different opinions or else you would get yourself into more troubles.

It is in the human nature that a person would comment by criticizing, blaming, shouting and laughing at another. If a person just followed blindly in order to please that person, he would be like a slave following the orders of a master without having a stand for himself. It is just like walking along a path filled with pebbles barefooted as ordered when you are having a nice comfortable pair of shoes for your long journey.

It was not wrong for the Man and the Boy to walk along with the Donkey to the market. If he made his stand on moving on without listening to others, he would not end up losing the Donkey. To a person it might be a stupid way but to another, it might just be the right way to achieve what he wanted. What would you do if you were the Man? Would you like to share your opinion here?

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THE PLEASURES AND PRESSURES OF BEING MARRIED

Written by crizlai on Jan 6th, 2008 | Filed under: life, love, marriage, rant, relationship

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When love sparks, two people will eventually come together and marriage will be one of the most fundamental and enduring social institutions that will ever happen. Man and woman will think of the partnership and facing sacrifices for the sake of both parties and in an attempt to seek security and contentment from their mutual understanding. Then comes in the thought of expanding that relationship into a family, where children will come into their lives. This is the general idea of a married life.

As years of the intimate emotional relationship goes by, it is inevitable that some misunderstanding and friction due to anger, suspicion or jealousy will occur from time to time. This is where a person will have to put his/her level of understanding, tolerance and love to test. Marriage is actually based on compatibility and not just by finding someone you deemed fit to your liking. Even if it is so, it is always the mutual respect, love and concern that will make the marriage a success. You do not go through marriage blindly without sharing the happiness and pain as a whole. It will not work as it will result in bad communication and understanding in time to come.

Most cases of marital problems arose due to the unwillingness of a partner to compromise with another. As the sayings, “It takes two hands to make a clap”. When a minor misunderstanding occurs, it is best that one side maintain the coolness until whatever thunderstorm, hurricane or tornado subsided. This is easily said than done as most of the time, as a human with heavy emotion, it is hard for many to control the inbuilt time bomb that will explode by a mere flick of the fingers. The golden rule in any marriage is that problems can be resolved without violence and anger. Try to enrich your life by nurturing the patience, tolerance and understanding within yourself.

It was the heydays when man used to dominate the working world as the sole bread earner for his family. In the modern society of today, both sexes play an important part in the success of bringing up a family. Household chores are no longer limited to the women as they are now shared duties for both working couple. There should no longer be the term “man of the house” or “woman of the house” and replaced with the term “guardians of the family”.

There was this joke about having an ideal relationship being married. “A good marriage would be between a deaf husband and a blind wife.” I had a good laugh when I read about the reasoning behind the saying few years back. It seems that as a married man, he tends to get a lot of grumbling and nagging from the wife, whereas as a married woman, she tends to look for perfection in her husband. In the end, what would be more ideal than to have a husband who will not “hear” the nagging of the wife and a wife who would not “see” the faults and weaknesses of her husband?

There are countless of pleasures and pressures in a marriage life and to cover all would be like reading the trilogy of Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, and so on. There is only one rule in a good marriage that I am going to mention here. Have a good thought about it.

Marriage is like a pair of scissors that have both blades stuck together. They are inseparable. Although both moves opposite directions most of the time, together they will still cut through the hardship and toughness of what lies ahead.

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FROM THEN UNTIL NOW – A FLASHBACK

Written by crizlai on Jan 1st, 2008 | Filed under: announcement, launch

 

 

 

 

Since 30th April 2007, a baby was born in Blogger. Who is this baby? It is none other than CRIZ’S SANCTUARY. From FLASHBACK 2007, this baby has gone through many ups and downs to reach where he is today. Welcome to the official launching of INSIGHT CRIZ … applying love in our life!

If you are in for life issues and philosophies, you are in the right place. Not only will I share my thoughts and experiences on life, I would also be providing awareness and solutions to some of the issues involving life, love, and relationship.

WHAT IS LIFE?
A long life may not be good enough but a good life is long enough.

WHAT IS LOVE?
Love is universal and love is life.

WHAT IS A RELATIONSHIP?
A house built with brick and stone but a home built with love and affection.

Those 3 points may be easily said but hard to achieve for many. If we do not understand the hidden meaning within them, no matter how hard we try, it will not be a reality. No matter what, be contended with what we have and be happy with the way things turned out to be. We have gone through many experiences in life which brought us to who we are today. Appreciate all the positive experiences, through life’s lesson or stressful times that make us stronger to face the many challenges of our society. By then, you will realize that your life has reached the fullest and your whole life will be under your own control.

Until then, HAPPY NEW YEAR 2008! May your whole year and many years to come be filled with love, peace, joy, health, wealth and success!

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